Silver fox v’s crone

Ageing sucks! I was talking to a friend the other day about how at THIS ‘certain age’ we are beginning to feel invisible and so very overlooked.

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I am still struggling with ageing. It’s inevitable. Yes, it comes to us all just like death and it is something we don’t always discuss. If we do there is much about ‘do it gracefully’. Humpffff that makes me so mad I can’t tell you. It’s usually from those younger glorious women whom as yet do not know the grief of this journey.

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Whilst I am doing my upmost to be kind to myself through this and there are many photos of glorious looking women in their latter years who are ‘grey goddesses indeed. Reality. That isn’t the majority of us.

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I exercise. I eat well. I have a good outlook on life. Yet, I still am struggling to shift weight, to accept and welcome the lines, the drool and the sag. Being single dating is hell. Men comment on sagging bellies, stare at younger women and generally yes, I feel overlooked.

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Why is men get called ‘silver foxes’ and ‘distinguished’ and women ‘crones’. The archetype of the crone is a wise woman yet is is widely misunderstood as ‘ageing, ugly, old and bitter woman’. Maybe rightly so. There is a bittersweetness in this process. I moving away from youth. Menopause. A moving towards the death watch and unknown.

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State of mind or fact? Who knows. I just know it is real for me and many women I know. A conversation needs to happen. An acceptance of this process and an honouring of the wisdom we hold having worked this thing called life!

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It’s a process. It’s a journey. It is as it is. I,myself, am wanting to do it with grace. I just need some help!